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5 Forms of Self-Care

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Self-care is more than just candles and face masks. Now don’t miss understand, we LOVE candles (preferably gardenia-scented) and have a drawer full of face masks and scrubs, but learning how to take care of yourself goes beyond this. We’ve spoken to many women who say that they will schedule routine manicures appointments or grab a Starbucks drink twice a week but, for some reason, they still don’t know why they find themselves tired and depleted at the end of each week. And then of course the weekends are packed with errands that you can’t seem to be able to fit into the weekdays, making your weekends feel like “just-as-busy” extensions of the week.

When it comes to really taking care of ourselves, self-goes beyond just physical care. Self-care comes in many forms, and the most ideal situation is having a healthy balance between these multiple forms of care. These next 5 dimensions of self-care help to support various parts of who you are!

Physical Self-Care: This first form of self-care is probably the most recognized one. It involves activities that you could do to care for your physical body. Many of these activities are associated with eating healthy, exercise, and sleep patterns.

Mental Self-Care: This second form of care include activities that relate directly to your thoughts, reflections, and understanding – recognizing thought processes, ideas, and responding in a healthy way. You might be familiar with the term mindfulness, the act of being aware of your thoughts and reflections of the present moment. Mindfulness activities can help you develop a more positive mental state.

Emotional Self-Care: We are capable of expressing an endless number of emotions on a daily basis, and sometimes we even feel more than one emotion at a time. Talk about confusing! There is a phrase that is commonly used in day to day language to convey the negative impact emotions can have on oneself: feeling emotionally drained. Emotions are very powerful influencers on our overall health and so it is in our best interest to be aware of our feelings.

Spiritual Self-Care: Spirituality can be defined in many ways but underneath this broad topic is a fundamental dimension that covers the personal values and meanings by which we live our lives. Spiritual self-care includes activities that allow us to focus all that’s beyond this physical world; things that can oftentimes be very stressful and demanding. The awareness of these transcending experiences can positively impact our personal lives and relationships with others.

Social Self-Care: No matter our personality type, Myers Briggs score, or temperaments, we all have one thing in common…we are relational beings. How much we actually love being around people may vary (lol!) but, at some level, interactions with others is a vital part of who we are!

So here’s a challenge for you! Arrange these 5 forms of self-care in order, from “yep, got that down pack!” to “yeahhh….ummm, I need to get on that.” Which 2 forms of self-care do you practice the least? Now, identify one thing that you can do to incorporate them into your life.

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It’s That Time Again…

You take me in
You lead me out
You take me in
You lead me out
You take me in
You lead me out
Such a journey walking with you now (x3)

…the lyrics to a song that appear to have been written specifically for my life.
Some have asked where I’ve been, and so as I sit here and prepare my mind for sharing, the only words that come to mind are the lyrics to this Housefires song – “Mountain to Valley”. I think about all that has changed since I’ve last written – work, ministry, home – and am amazed at how life is. Everything happens in seasons.

You take me in
You lead me out

Over the last 10 months I have been in a season where God was leading me out – sending me out into this world to minister, lead, influence, help and I’ve done just that. I’ve stood back in awe of the way that the Lord has used my life to bring change to the culture of today’s ministry. It has, in turn, been a blessing in my life because I’ve had a taste of the goodness of God when I think of the ways that He’s called me to speak healing and restoration into the lives of the women that I’ve shepherded, but I’m pleased to know that He’s now taking me into a new season. This season is a season of rest, as I prepare to “just be”…to simply abide in Him.

In this season God is calling me to press into His presence. I look forward to sharing all that He shows me in this season as He takes me in.

You take me in
You lead me out
You take me in
You lead me out
You take me in
You lead me out
Such a journey walking with you now x3

Mountain to Valley – Housefires

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But, Why?

I was recently asked why I chose to title this blog: Life’s Uncertainties.

The quality of life lies in your perspective of it, I strongly believe. I love Walgreen’s motto: at the corner of happy and healthy – a place many of us want to arrive at, but only a few find. And I’ve asked myself why that is, after hearing my internal GPS scream, one too many times, “rerouting” as I’ve sought to find that corner in my own life.

See because the quality of life lies in your perspective of it.

I also love the show Big Brother and it’s motto: expect the unexpected. (Which has also always left me a bit confused because if you expect the unexpected, then that would, in turn, mean the unexpected is no longer unexpected…) But see for a person like me, the unexpected occurrences of life were anything but happy and healthy – instead they were moments that would leave me feeling unhappy and ill.

See because the quality of life lies in your perspective of it.

Brene Brown beautifully brings you to the corner of faith and unexpectedness when she says “faith is a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty.” This left me then wondering how could one who proclaims to have faith in God fight so strongly to hold onto control over her life’s circumstances and occurrences? If I was to be honest with myself, I had to figure out what has brought me comfort over the years: the desire for certainty in life or the faith in a God who is constant and good.

See because the quality of life lies in your perspective of it.

I was recently asked why I chose to title this blog: Life’s Uncertainties. I’ve learned to use how I handle life’s uncertainties as a way to gauge the strength of my spiritual walk. I find that those times I choose to embrace the beauty in the uncertainties of life are the times that my focus is fixated on my faithful God.

See because the quality of life lies in your perspective of it.

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Moving Onto Better Things

I’m so happy to have found this outlet. I’ve often lived life ruminating on my thoughts and feelings, afraid to share them with people who may not be all that interested in the ebbs and flows of my mind and heart.

For as long as I can remember, I would struggle with what came naturally for me – a drive to always improve, move up, or move on. Work. College. Relationships. Hobbies. Cars. Physical Shape. Even hair color.

Religious, legalistic, people would always quote me Paul, who in the book of Philippians, was imprisoned and writing to the church at Philippi about being content no matter the circumstances. I’d often feel guilty striving for betterment and improvement, for I was left feeling that striving “for more” equated to dissatisfaction for the present day with which God has blessed me.

But don’t be fooled. The love for materialism, along with the love for self-deprivation, both lead to idolatry.

We serve a God who wants His children to live an abundant life, as long as it is Him who we remain serving. God Himself instructed Moses in Exodus to “go up to the land flowing with milk and honey” (Exodus 33:3). Abundant life.

It’s quite possible that Paul was doing what we are all called to do. To speak into our circumstances. To declare victory. To call forth what isn’t as if it is. To verbalize to the Enemy, who wants nothing more than to imprison you through passivity and insecurity, that we will not be kept down. To stand face-to-face with your Enemy and say “I’m not moved by your manipulation of my circumstances, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.” That’s very different than accepting the belief that life is what it is, and not deciding to actively strive for the great, abundant life waiting for you on the other side of your steps of faith.

Live life. Move on to better things with boldness.